On Friday, April 17th, 2026, 25 Mendham students took a vow of silence for the duration of the school day, and their silence spoke volumes. Since 2008, West Morris Mendham High School has participated in the Day of Silence, a nationally recognized tradition that raises awareness for the discrimination faced by LGBTQ+ youth. Students refrain from speaking throughout the day and dress in all-black attire, often adorned with rainbow accessories. The absence of their voices highlights the effects of the silencing of LGBTQ+ students who are pressured to suppress their identities. At the day’s conclusion, participants gather to break their silence together by shouting in unison. This year’s National Day of Silence was held on Friday, April 10th. However, our Gender Sexuality Alliance (GSA) decided to observe the tradition one week later in order to provide enough time to prepare following our spring break.
Mendham’s Breaking the Silence ceremony is held in the library during the final period of the day. Ms. Gillmett, faculty advisor for the GSA, was unexpectedly unable to be present on the 17th this year. In her absence, Mr. Ward graciously stepped in as the overseeing faculty member, while running the ceremony fell to GSA student leaders Jordan Epstein and Megan Pellittieri. When asked about how the day went, Jordan responded, “I feel it went well […] it was nice to see that the Mendham community was really accepting.” Community support plays a large role in creating environments in which students feel safe expressing themselves, and this support isn’t limited to participants. Maz Kay, a ninth-grade participant, added, “Not all of my friends […] participated in the vow of silence, a lot of them wore black to show support.” In fact, a significant number of freshmen were involved, suggesting that the future of the Day of Silence at Mendham is in good hands. In response to this year’s turnout, Megan, a junior who will return to GSA leadership next year, said, “it ended up having, like, a lot stronger support than I anticipated.”
The Day of Silence demonstrates the deep impact of the absence of any individual voice. In Maz’s words, “you really don’t think about how much a single person impacts a large group of people until you’re missing their voice.” However, there is also great power in seeing those voices stand back up to share their experiences. After the silence is broken, students are invited to share a creative piece or performance. The moving creative works shared by students further highlighted how much potential every individual has to affect their community.
Unfortunately, LGBTQ+ youth continue to face harassment and discrimination. Traditions such as the Day of Silence are vital in creating support systems to help students combat these challenges. Holding this event each year reaffirms students’ right to express themselves authentically and demonstrates to anyone who feels silenced that they are seen, heard, and never alone. Mendham’s long-standing participation in the Day of Silence strengthens our school community and fosters an inclusive environment for all.
GSA (Gender Sexuality Alliance) meets in Room 133 on Thursdays during lunch throughout the year. All are welcome!
